Watch this video:
Oh my gosh. I could watch this over and over and over and over again. It is perfect.
I can’t even believe the things that people say about adoption. “Those aren’t your real kids” makes me want to punch somebody. How in your right mind could you say that to somebody?????
I’ve already been asked “How much did they cost” which I can’t even fathom why someone would ask that. I’m going to start carrying around our agencies phone number and hand it to people who ask. hahaha.
The question that really gets me though is “how did they get in foster care”. I politely try to let people know that it’s NOT MY STORY to tell. And to be fair, it DOESN’T matter how they ended up in foster care, what matters is that we are adopting them. I understand that as humans, we are curious by nature, but if I let you know that it’s not my story to share, LET IT GO. Don’t keep asking questions “was it abuse” “was it alcohol” “was it….”, this isn’t 20 questions. I’m not going to go “ding ding ding” if you get the right question. If my children feel like sharing their story one day: great, if they never want to share it: great. IT IS THEIR LIFE.
Adoption is tricky. I never realized all the questions we would have to avoid or answer. I never really realized how curious humans are. I want to share MY story. I’m open about my infertility. I’m open about how my heart was led to adoption. I’ve been open about our adoption process. However, I WILL NOT share a story that IS NOT mine.