The Holidays are geared towards children. It’s the truth.
When I was struggling with infertility, I HATED the holidays. I wished I could just skip from November to January. Thanksgiving sucked. Christmas sucked. New Year’s sucked. They are all centered around children.
The kids table. Making hand turkeys. The Macy’s Day Parade. School plays. Decorating the tree. Riding around looking at lights. Snowball fights. Snow days from school. Making cookies/treats. PRESENTS. SANTA. Christmas Eve/Day are REALLY all about kids. And none of this is fun without kids.
Holidays are HARD for those without children, those who can’t have children, those who are struggling to have children.
Adoption has given me hope again. Something I thought I may never have again. It has given me the strength to get through the holidays. For the first time in what feels like 6 years, I’m enjoying the holidays. Hubby and I put a tree up with lights and everything! We even turn it on! I made the entire turkey dinner for Thanksgiving! I’ve been able to do these things through the gift of Adoption. Knowing in my heart that this time next year we will have children (we may not know them yet but we will get them) has made this year extra special. This is our “practice” year for next year.
If you know someone struggling with infertility this time of year, just give them a hug. There’s nothing you can say or do to help but a hug lets them know you care.
Merry Christmas! Happy Hanukkah! Happy Holidays!